Let them Learn

kids be kids

Blow is a list of ways to deal with your kids that I found interesting. I agree with some others I don’t, and those that know me would know which ones.

So now that we covered the basics all I have to do is figure out how to apply all these to my kids way of doing things. It is not easy. They did not come with a book that describes how to deal with things. Trust me I looked for the off button all the time with no luck. So we as parents try to always change our systems and make the best of it. After all we brought them to this world they are our responsibility.

The one thing I never accepted and I will never accept is the kids constant belief of self entitlement. They believe that we owe them something. The school system and our society tell them that the parents have no right. and that all the right belong to the kids.

Which leaves them to get their heads bigger and bigger and they develop a sense of disrespect to authority. How are they going to survive and get jobs and develop respect for others if they don’t develop respect for their parents. People make fun of the Chinese and middle eastern with our tough love. Truth is no one in my large family dared to disrespect the elders. What that taught us is discipline, as well as the ability to survive. Yes survive.

I still remember when my dad was alive. He would let me make mistakes. But he was always close by to help. I never realized that until i had a son. Treat your kids with respect BUT they must learn discipline for it will help them in the future.

I pity those parents that raise their kids with Zero expectations that their kids will take care of them when they grow up. Fact is that if you raise your kids with values then they will never forget it.

1. Kids are Kids Because of a kids age, coordination, lack of judgment, or

simplified thought processes, kids are not going to be able to perform a task the way a teen

or adult can. Let it be. Let them fall and learn.

2. Kids are works in progress. Just like you are. Kids are always developing, learning and growing

every day, each new day provides them with opportunities for success.

3. Sometimes when Kids make mistakes, they have a natural tendency to want to try again.

Because this behaviour shows perseverance and great effort, parents can reinforce these

positive characteristics by simply allowing them to try again.

4. Learning from trial and error is still learning. If you observe your Kid trying a task over

and over again without frustration, they are probably learning something on each try.

• Think about your own experiences .

5. There are other things more important than doing a job “right.” So what if, when your

child is done making the bed, the bedspread is crooked? If you consider what matters most,

you’ll come up with some characteristics your child demonstrates that you can be proud of.

6. Your child’s self-esteem depends on your reactions. How you react when your child

makes a mistake shows him/her what you think and believe about him/her.

• When it comes to a child’s self-esteem, allowing him to make mistakes at something while at the

same time, accepting them the way they are, sends powerful messages of unconditional

acceptance and love to your child.

7. Provide encouragement when your Kid struggles to perform. Since most tasks have

various parts to them, look for the portion of the task that your Kid did well. Tell him/her they did

a good job on that aspect. Acknowledge the task is difficult and that he’ll eventually catch on

and do the whole task well.

8. Avoid generating or expressing strong emotions related to your Kids blunder. It’s wise

to remain neutral and objective when speaking to a child about his performance of a task.

• If you find yourself feeling frustration or anger about your Kids mistakes, it’s best to

give yourself a “time out.”

Blow is a list of ways to deal with your kids that I found interesting. I agree with some others I don’t and those that know me would know which ones.

So now that we covered the basics all I have to do is figure out how to apply all these to my kids way of doing things. It is not easy. They did not with a book that describes how to deal with things. Trust me I looked for the off button all the time with no luck. So we as parents try to always change our systems and make the best of it. After all we brought them to this world they are our responsibility.

The one thing I never accepted and I will never accept is the kids constant belief of self entitlement. They believe that we owe them something. The school system and our society tell them that the parents have no right. and that all the right belong to the kids

Which leaves them to get their heads bigger and bigger and they develop a sense of disrespect to authority. People make fun of the Chinese and middle eastern with our tough love. Truth is no one in my large family dared to disrespect the elders. What that taught us is discipline, as well as the ability to survive. Yes survive.

I still remember when my dad was alive. He would let me make mistakes. But he was always close by to help. I never realized that until i had a son. Treat your kids with respect BUT they must learn discipline for it will help them in the future.

I pity those parents that raise their kids with Zero expectations that their kids will take care of them when they grow up. Fact is that if you raise your kids with values then they will never forget it.

1 Comment

  • Dieter

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